Better Understand Yourself and Your Partner in Couples Counselling

Determine your relationship goals and feel whole again – no matter the outcome.

Sometimes, you and your partner can get stuck in endless cycles of negative communication and arguments, making you feel like your relationship is doomed. You may feel as if you’ve lost your way—or even lost yourself.

But there is hope for you and your relationship.

It’s crucial to understand that just because you’re “stuck” in an uncomfortable place doesn’t mean you can’t work things out. Every marriage or relationship experiences ups and downs because you’re constantly changing and evolving. Sometimes, both you and your partner just need time to examine yourselves and your relationship to get back on the same page.

That’s why couples counselling in Vancouver is so valuable. It provides a safe space, away from the busyness of life, where you and your partner can genuinely explore each other’s perspectives, identify areas of contention, and take the necessary steps to repair your connection.

How I Can Help You Find Relationship Fulfillment

Your relationship can experience strain for several reasons, and it can be challenging to figure out how to address things without causing further pain, anger, and resentment. Whether you are looking for marriage counselling in Vancouver or relationship counselling, I’m here to provide expert guidance on your next steps.

Some of the most common topics I address with my relationship counselling clients include the following:

  • Money and finances
  • Different parent styles
  • Life transitions, including a change of careers or becoming empty-nesters
  • Addiction to substances, gambling, porn, shopping, eating, etc.
  • Victimization
  • Dealing with extended family, including in-laws
  • Sexual desire discrepancies
  • Communication struggles
  • Not feeling connected
  • Emotional blockages
  • Betrayal
  • Infidelity
  • Unaddressed intergenerational traumas

If You’re Committed to Doing the Work, I Can Help

Feeling disconnected and incompatible in your marriage or relationship is painful and draining. However, it’s essential to understand that I cannot change your partner, nor can I force them to be motivated to address deep-rooted destructive patterns.

What I can offer is trusting, supportive guidance to help you heal the wounds of rejection and resentment, provided you are both dedicated and prepared to commit to the following:

Examine the role each of you has played in your relationship’s current state.

  • Accept accountability for the consequences of poor choices.
  • Consider that your partner’s viewpoint may hold value.

Are you and your partner committed to clarifying whether you want to stay together and ready to do the necessary work to find relationship fulfillment, whatever that may look like? If so, I can provide compassionate support through in-person or online couples counseling in Vancouver.

How You’ll Benefit From Couples Counselling With Me

Relationship or marriage counselling involves leaning into discomfort with curiosity rather than hostility. Finding harmony requires openness to different perspectives and taking responsibility for your role in your relationship struggles.

Regardless of the outcome, couples counselling can help you and your partner gain greater clarity. It can also empower you both to express what is acceptable and what crosses a line while maintaining your dignity.

When you and your partner are dedicated to the relationship counselling process, you can both learn to be:

  • Approachable rather than aloof
  • Emotionally responsive rather than disinterested and disengaged
  • Dependable, showing up when you are most needed

By integrating new perspectives, you can restore and revitalize your relationship, feeling like a team—whether for the first time or once again.

Benefits of Newlywed Counselling

If you skipped premarital counselling due to elopement, COVID circumstances, or personal choice, you can still benefit from couples counseling. Newlywed counselling allows you to address relationship issues early on and develop essential skills for a healthy long-term relationship.

Newlywed counselling also has several other benefits. It allows you to:

  • Focus after the wedding: Unlike premarital counselling, which can overshadow wedding preparations, newlywed counselling will enable you to concentrate solely on strengthening your marriage without the distraction of upcoming nuptials.
  • Navigate the realities of marriage: As the initial honeymoon phase fades and real-life challenges arise, newlywed counselling provides a space to address conflicts, manage unmet expectations, and learn from your couples counsellor without the idealism often present in engaged couples.
  • Prepare for life transitions: As a couple, you will face many life transitions. Newlywed counselling can equip you with the tools to smoothly navigate transitions like buying a house, starting a family, and career shifts while maintaining a strong relationship.
  • Receive encouragement: The early years of marriage can be tricky. Newlywed counselling can help normalize these challenges, reassuring you that all relationships experience ups and downs and providing support to overcome discouragement and uncertainty.
  • Promote continuous growth: Newlywed counselling encourages you and your partner to invest in your relationship regularly, fostering a habit of growth and self-improvement to strengthen your marriage over time.

What to Expect From Relationship Counselling in Vancouver

Couples counselling isn’t a walk in the park, but it is a worthwhile investment in your personal and relationship satisfaction. You may worry about what will come up, think that relationship counselling will only drive you further apart, or believe you and your partner are “too far gone.”

There’s no reason to go through life feeling unhappy in your relationship. No matter the outcome, you have the opportunity to live your life authentically. I’m ready to help you figure out what that looks like for you and your partner.

Relationship and marriage counselling with me is:

  • Genuine
  • Supportive
  • Safe
  • Understanding
  • Compassionate
  • Patient

I am invested in helping you identify your relationship goals and dedicated to helping you reach them. Together, we will work to get to the root of your relationship issues through:

  • Practicing in-session strategies
  • Authentically answering questions to discover your therapy goals
  • Actively listening to each other
  • Asking questions to better understand your partner’s experience
  • Exploring deeper issues with curiosity
  • In-session relationship role-play
  • Valuable homework assignments to practice learned strategies in real life

There is life after betrayal. There is room for change. And there is hope for harmony. All you need to do is take that first step and contact me.

Communication is to relationship what breath is to life.

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”

— VIRGINIA SATIR —